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                           DOES ONLINE NEGATIVITY GET TO ME?

5/10/2016

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HEY MY PALS, back again with my new blog post...

So, the last few months since the number of followers I have gotten larger,  I have got so many lovely and kind comments on my pictures etc. Along with fabulous followers!!

Of course when you put yourself out there, there are pro and cons ! From someone that had 1k followers to more than half a million across my social medias, it was hard for me to adapt to the pros and cons. I have been getting some nasty comments on my appearance and much more. I usually ignore hate & carry on. My usual thing is, block & delete from my accounts.

There was a good few comments on the amount of make up I wear, saying i'm 'insecure' & 'ugly' & 'Fat' and much more. I decided to post a before and after of my make up which surprisingly got a really good response from my followers.  I felt it was the right time for me to speak up for other girls\guys who get hate online too and to tell them they're not alone.


I posted on Instagram & Facebook expressing my feelings about the negativity on social medias..


''Here is a before and after of my make up... I get so many comments saying I'm insecure and I'm so ugly because I wear so much make up, don't get me wrong I love playing around with make up and when I put it on I feel better about myself. I shouldn't have to explain myself but here we are! I am a positive person and try to ignore horrible comments but sometimes I need to speak! You're entitled to do what makes you happy in life!! So right now I'm happy in myself and of course every person has insecurities about themselves 🙂 (if you post hate you're getting blocked)''

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As you can see below, I do look quite different with make up on...




After I posted the picture on  Instagram & Facebook, I received thousands of messages asking 'How do you deal with the hate?' & 'You're so brave for speaking out for others who get bullied online'  and much more.

If i'm being honest, as I write this i'm trying to think of an answer on how I deal with it. It's pretty much just realising that there are many people out there who won't or don't like you for no reason. There are people that don't want you to do well in life. These people are called 'Keyboard Warriors' & 'Trolls' & 'Bullies'. These people try to put you down and try get into your mind & want to ruin your day/mood. 
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​I came to the realisiation that they're the ones with the problem, not me... When I get hate, I don't reply to it, I just delete and move on. Sometimes people come back and use a different account to send me horrible messages. I just block and give NO reply. THEY EVENTUALLY DO GIVE UP. I PROMISE THAT.

These online bullies NEED to realise that they could send out horrible comments to a person who is very soft hearted or going through a rough time. This could send somebody into dark thoughts & let it get to them. Bullying is such a serious thing online, it can really effect some people. Sometimes it does go as far as depression, self harm, anxiety or even suicide.

​Victims of online bullying need to know they are NOT alone and even the greatest people in the world get hate./mean comments said to them. ( Even Beyonce gets hate )​
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I am very lucky that I have a great family, friends & boyfriend to help me through anything. I am also very lucky that I am able to turn off my phone and block people without dwelling on it. At the start I didn't understand why they would say rude things to me or about me, I felt attacked and useless. A year later, NOTHING bothers me.

 It's one step at a time, block the account that are sending mean messages, get off your phone\laptop . GO TALK TO SOMEONE, this is the main thing that helped me when I started getting hate. I told my boyfriend/girlfriends and I got upset about it. I then moved on and now those awful words don't hurt me anymore. It does take some time to not let it affect you but it is possible.


So the point I wanted to make is to just walk away from social medias if you're not in the right state of mind, take a break, close the laptop down, know your worth and remember you're amazing and there are so many people who love you.  

Allow yourself to cry, or to feel sad, that's ok too.


YOU ARE GREAT- 


That's all for now, thank you for the support and kind messages.


REMEMBER - it's nice to be nice <3333
36 Comments
Bridget
5/10/2016 08:28:27 am

Go Emily! There are always going to be people who for one reason or another do not like you it's just life and somrthing everyone will realise over time. Some take longer than others to realise and it still does hurt but we move on! And you have a wonderful boyfriend and I'm sure great friends what more do you need! Can't wait for more blogs!
From an Aussie fan, Bridget

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Emily
8/17/2016 02:21:20 pm

Great blog!! Your doing fantastic and cntrl-alt-delete troll!!👧🏽🦄😀

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Hollie
5/10/2016 08:36:02 am

Well said Emily!! It's hard for a lot of people to cope with Internet bullying and bullying altogether, I've been through it before myself, people should listen to this and take it on board, such inspiring words Emily, well done!

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Aoife
5/10/2016 08:46:41 am

Well done Emily for over coming these bullies, I was so paranoid about myself with no makeup on worrying what people would think of me but slowly but surely ive got over it, I love your page and blogs your a beautiful young lady keep that head held high because you are amazing ❤

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Bonnie
5/10/2016 11:06:28 am

Emily-
I love your confidence! You're beautiful!

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Leslie
5/10/2016 01:01:27 pm

Your a beautiful girl with or without makeup. You have a great outlook on life and my daughter is almost 17 and she feels the same way about bullying but u are right some don't know it's ok just brush it off. Thank you for speaking out. Big fan of you and Cian.

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Gill
5/10/2016 02:28:16 pm

Very well said and oh so correct, we all are entitled to an opinion but no one is entitled to abuse another -Control/alt/delete indeed

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Hannah link
5/10/2016 02:42:58 pm

Hi Emily
Very well said. Love your posts and videos. I love your videos and your confidence. You have amazing skills.

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Liz Hart
5/10/2016 03:17:15 pm

Emily, You are beautiful both with or without makeup. Your words show that you are beautiful inside also. You are smart to not let haters get to you. Their venom is poisoning them so they spew it out at others. It has nothing to do with you. I still struggle sometimes with being hurt by mean people and I'm much older than you, so good for you for learning while you're young.

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Phillippa link
5/10/2016 04:41:13 pm

💓👌💪

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Amelia Ellis
5/11/2016 01:52:06 pm

What a sweetheart you are! Love following you. 😉

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claire
6/23/2016 12:55:49 am

😊 love watching you on snapchat and your blog is full of great tips x

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ais
8/17/2016 02:43:40 pm

can I just say you are stunning with and without makeup. ignore the haters. also what is your lippie in your with makeup pic cos I'm in love

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Ashley Gunderson
9/13/2016 12:37:55 pm

Don't we all look different with makeup? Isn't that the purpose of makeup? Keep being you, darling. No one has permission to make you think twice about yourself. You are fabulous!

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Lisa
10/14/2016 03:41:38 pm

I think you are beautiful with or without makeup.

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4/9/2019 02:16:21 pm

You inspire me with your art in makeup, beauty, style & just being one of the realest people on social media. I love that & I love your positive attitude and want to say keep going! You are already a queen in my eyes!!!

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