HEY MY PALS, back again with my new blog post...
So, the last few months since the number of followers I have gotten larger, I have got so many lovely and kind comments on my pictures etc. Along with fabulous followers!!
Of course when you put yourself out there, there are pro and cons ! From someone that had 1k followers to more than half a million across my social medias, it was hard for me to adapt to the pros and cons. I have been getting some nasty comments on my appearance and much more. I usually ignore hate & carry on. My usual thing is, block & delete from my accounts.
There was a good few comments on the amount of make up I wear, saying i'm 'insecure' & 'ugly' & 'Fat' and much more. I decided to post a before and after of my make up which surprisingly got a really good response from my followers. I felt it was the right time for me to speak up for other girls\guys who get hate online too and to tell them they're not alone.
I posted on Instagram & Facebook expressing my feelings about the negativity on social medias..
''Here is a before and after of my make up... I get so many comments saying I'm insecure and I'm so ugly because I wear so much make up, don't get me wrong I love playing around with make up and when I put it on I feel better about myself. I shouldn't have to explain myself but here we are! I am a positive person and try to ignore horrible comments but sometimes I need to speak! You're entitled to do what makes you happy in life!! So right now I'm happy in myself and of course every person has insecurities about themselves 🙂 (if you post hate you're getting blocked)''
As you can see below, I do look quite different with make up on...
After I posted the picture on Instagram & Facebook, I received thousands of messages asking 'How do you deal with the hate?' & 'You're so brave for speaking out for others who get bullied online' and much more.
If i'm being honest, as I write this i'm trying to think of an answer on how I deal with it. It's pretty much just realising that there are many people out there who won't or don't like you for no reason. There are people that don't want you to do well in life. These people are called 'Keyboard Warriors' & 'Trolls' & 'Bullies'. These people try to put you down and try get into your mind & want to ruin your day/mood.
I came to the realisiation that they're the ones with the problem, not me... When I get hate, I don't reply to it, I just delete and move on. Sometimes people come back and use a different account to send me horrible messages. I just block and give NO reply. THEY EVENTUALLY DO GIVE UP. I PROMISE THAT.
These online bullies NEED to realise that they could send out horrible comments to a person who is very soft hearted or going through a rough time. This could send somebody into dark thoughts & let it get to them. Bullying is such a serious thing online, it can really effect some people. Sometimes it does go as far as depression, self harm, anxiety or even suicide.
Victims of online bullying need to know they are NOT alone and even the greatest people in the world get hate./mean comments said to them. ( Even Beyonce gets hate )
I am very lucky that I have a great family, friends & boyfriend to help me through anything. I am also very lucky that I am able to turn off my phone and block people without dwelling on it. At the start I didn't understand why they would say rude things to me or about me, I felt attacked and useless. A year later, NOTHING bothers me.
It's one step at a time, block the account that are sending mean messages, get off your phone\laptop . GO TALK TO SOMEONE, this is the main thing that helped me when I started getting hate. I told my boyfriend/girlfriends and I got upset about it. I then moved on and now those awful words don't hurt me anymore. It does take some time to not let it affect you but it is possible.
So the point I wanted to make is to just walk away from social medias if you're not in the right state of mind, take a break, close the laptop down, know your worth and remember you're amazing and there are so many people who love you.
Allow yourself to cry, or to feel sad, that's ok too.
YOU ARE GREAT-
REMEMBER - it's nice to be nice <3333